Family Peace Is Important To Elders

You knew one day you and your family would be taking care of Mom or Dad. Yet, your family feels pinched; nothing is coordinated. Blame and guilt bubble up because you don’t know how to work as a care team. Lack of agreement, finances and rivalry causes stress. Your own family and career commitments, and worries about your own declining …

From A Fighting To A Forgiving

Did I hear right? “My brother threw a shoe at my mom.” “My sister cracked a dinner plate over my head.” “My brothers stopped giving me my inheritance.” “My mother hates me, favors my brother, even if I’m her primary caregiver.” “No one thanks me for what I do.” These are true gripes from frustrated family members caring for their …

Family Peacekeeping

In the heat of the moment, worn-out family caregivers’ words can offend, bully or sting:“How come I am the only one at Mom’s when she trips and falls between one and five a.m.? “Why do you get to live rent-free at Mom’s home? “Dad just spits out your tough stew meat!” Opinions and loose talk can trigger knee-jerk reactions that …

Sentimental Journals

In 1945, Doris Day sang, “Gonna take a sentimental journey. Gonna set my heart at ease. Gonna make a sentimental journey, to renew old memories.” This popular song became an unofficial homecoming greeting for returning veterans at end of WWII. Couples probably slow-danced and swayed to it, cheek-to-cheek. Elders sing it today, recalling exactly where they were at the end …